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2. Ask about counseling.
Once you have discussed the issues your veteran is having, you can mention counseling. If you bring it up as advice, saying, "I think you should see a counselor," the veteran will be more likely to reject it.
But you can bring it up as a question, which encourages more discussion. You might say, "How would you feel about talking to a counselor?"
If your veteran is hesitant about going to a counselor, ask why, so you know how to respond.
Here are some things you might say when talking to a veteran about counseling. As we list these, thing about any that sound effective to you. Then, click to continue to the next page.
You might say:
- What you're experiencing is a normal reaction to abnormal circumstances.
- Roughly 20% of Iraq and Afghanistan veterans are likely to suffer from PTSD or depression.
- There's a lot to be gained by getting help: sleeping better, feeling better, holding a job, re-connecting with loved ones.
- Seeking and accepting help is a sign of strength. It takes courage to face the things that are holding you back.
- The V.A. has tremendous experience helping veterans with post-deployment stress. It's not like it was after Vietnam. Their services in this area are very advanced.
- While you may get better on your own, it can be a long and difficult process without outside help. The sooner you deal with this, the less pain you'll experience.
- Seeing a counselor is like seeing any other kind of medical specialist.
- Counseling typically lasts a brief period of time (usually a few months), not forever.
- I can send you links to some information on PTSD treatments, so you can see if it's something you're interested in trying.
- Treatment is your right, a benefit of your service.
- Vet Centers--small, informal clinics operated by the V.A.--offer confidential counseling, for those who don't want mental health treatment to be part of their health records.